NURTURING YOUR SPIRIT


     

     

    Stages of Growth and the Special Educator

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Conference for the staff of Catholic Special Schools

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Tuesday 27 April 2004

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Jeanie Heininger s.g.s.

     

     

     

    I'd like to start by acknowledging the original owners of this beautiful land on which Mater Dei now stands.  I take this opportunity to honour the Elders of the Indigenous community who lived here for so many centuries and who understood about NURTURING THE SPIRIT.

     

    As a preamble I'd like to take a closer look at a few concepts in the title.  Firstly the concept of spirit.  I love that word.  It's rich in nuance and seems to be a very 21st Century word.  The word 'spirit' figured prominently in media reports in the past months.  The name was chosen by NASA for one of the space rovers sent to probe the Mars terrain in an attempt to discover if there is any evidence of life on the planet.  So today it could well be a mantra as we begin to explore our own inner landscape in an effort to discover our growth as special educators.

     

    It's also an ancient word. In the first book of the bible - thousands of years ago we read that spirit means breath, so I understand it to mean our essence, our truest self, our awareness of a force surrounding us.  You could understand it to mean spirituality, inner dynamic, our capacity for meaning.

     

    What about the concept of nurturing?  Our spirit needs nurturing.  It needs tender care, it needs nourishment, otherwise it can freeze up, or grow tired or wither.

     

    Now against the backdrop of nurturing your spirit, I want to offer to you some stages of growth that your spirit or your inner self or spirituality moves through.

     

    So I'm saying your spirit is not a static reality but rather a dynamic reality which can be creative, full of energy.  It can also plateau for a while or get stuck in a rut or vacillate or even lurch from crisis to crisis but has the capacity to grow and develop and be liberated.  So our spirits are extraordinary gifts that make us unique, can motivate us / empower us to sustain all the challenges in special education.  But they need nurturing.   You need time to be still.  You need time to step aside for a while just like you are doing today.   So just relax and open yourselves to the next hour.

     

    The words special educator mean all staff ie teachers, therapists, teachers' aides, residential staff (Social Educators), admin staff, social workers, counsellors because you are all educators in the broadest sense of the word.

     

    I intend using the generic term of students with disabilities throughout this presentation including such areas as sensory impairment, physical and intellectual disability, social and mental health needs.  I hope that’s satisfactory to everyone.

    COMMUNITIES that liberate

    The great strength of school communities is the unique spirit of each member.  The more each person engages their spirit, the stronger the community and the richer the relationships in that community.  People are liberated if and when they draw on their spirit.  People are imprisoned when they are out of touch with their spirit. Special schools are communities with great potential to challenge and threaten the spirit of staff and students.  There are stories here at Mater Dei of staff only lasting half a day and 3 weeks.  So special schools can indeed break a person's spirit.  It is TOUGH.  In a special school community we not only need to nurture our own spirit but each other's as well.  The Australian Bishops wrote in 1997:         

    The cry for a supportive community by people with disabilities, and their families, should not be denied in our churches, our schools, our neighbourhoods.  Neither the written words of parliamentary law nor the written words of the Gospel, are finally capable of enabling people with disabilities and celebrating with them.  Only supportive communities can do this. 4 


    In thinking about teaching children with a disability, we need to ask some questions:

    How is this school community liberating for all members?

    §         How does everyone contribute?

    §         How do you build relationships in your school community?

     

    All of the Catholic Special Schools represented here today have rich traditions that grew out of the particular SPIRIT of their Religious Orders eg the Dominican Sisters, the Christian Brothers, the Salesians, the Marist Brothers and the Sisters of the Good Samaritan.  They all are founded upon Catholic Social Teaching which encourages us to explore further the practical dimensions of our spirituality to affirm the dignity of the human person.  A reality we all share is our vulnerability and our need for support through our life’s journey.

     

    The writings of Albert Nolan (a Dominican) and his study of ‘Spiritual Growth and Service of the Poor’, are very helpful in coming to an understanding of the growth that takes place within special education staff.  Nolan describes four stages of growth.

    STAGE I:  COMPASSION

     

    Nolan says that the first stage of our commitment is characterised by compassion.  We have all been moved personally by what we have seen or heard of suffering.  Our experience of compassion has been our starting point.  But it is only a starting point and it needs to develop and grow.

     

    In order to develop our compassion is a willingness to allow it to happen.  We do have a way of allowing our compassion to develop.  We have a way of nourishing our natural feelings of compassion.  When we experience compassion we are sharing God’s compassion.  We are sharing what God feels about the world today.  Moreover, our faith enables us to sharpen and deepen our compassion by enabling us to see the face of Christ in those who are suffering and to remember that whatever we do to the least of his brothers and sisters we do to him.

     

    I remember when I first arrived here at Mater Dei and I was all of 24 and I used to sleep in a room off the 3 dormitories where 62 boarders were dropping off to sleep.  Late at night, I'd walk past each bed and whisper 'goodnight ' if they were awake or check that they were covered and comfortable if they were asleep.  I listened to their breath coming in slow, easy rhythms.  Despite their frustrations, rejections and failures during the day, at night their faces held expressions of peace and acceptance of who they were.  Some nights I wouldn't want to step away and wouldn't want the world to spin onward and the rough consequences of life to follow them.          We all have moments like this don't we?

     

    It's important to nurture these moments of compassion because the'll get you through those times when you are at your wits' end. I need to take time to be still and simply listen to my inner voice.  Other times I need to get out into the wide, open spaces and do some physical exercise.  Sometimes I need to draw on my close relationships and talk to people whom I love and trust and who love and trust me.  Sometimes I need to read good books that can expand my spirit.  I discovered the writings of Jean Vanier a long while ago and this is something he says about compassion:

     

    “Religions that afford compassion a place allow for an important human experience.  Through relationship with the powerless person, compassion and goodness are awakened, and a new inner unity is established between body and spirit.  It is as if the tension between the intelligence and the body finds a mysterious resolution in the experience of being present.  Compassion engages the body and it is through the body that we draw nearer to others.  We discover that the fragile person can help us to accept ourselves with our own frailties and we undergo an inner transformation.  We become more human, more welcoming, and more open to others.”

    Buzz Time

    Share with the person beside you an experience of when you feel great compassion for your students.  How do you nurture your spirit when that sense of compassion can overwhelm you?

    STAGE II:  DISCOVERING OUR OWN ANGER.

     

    The second stage begins with the gradual discovery that the people we serve are generally exploited.  Their situations can be the direct result of institutionalisation or political and economic policies of governments and individuals who perpetuate structures that are oppressive.  This discovery that the people we serve are exploited by unjust structures and policies can lead to feelings of indignation and anger.

     

    Albert Nolan says that our Christian upbringing makes us feel somewhat uncomfortable with anger.  We might feel guilty when we get angry.  Should we not be forgiving the politicians - seventy times seven times?  Should we not overlook oppressive behaviours because powerful people are often philanthropers? 

     

    The way forward and beyond this crisis is bound up with the discovery of the spiritual reality of God’s anger.  We all know that there is a great deal about God’s anger in the bible.  We tend to find stories of God's wrath and Christ’s anger rather difficult to understand. 

     

    One of the many projects I tend to get involved in is a 6 week program entitled CONVERSATIONS FOR Nurturing Independence.  I usually have about 6 or 7 parents who always find it enlightening and helpful.  They often say that there are few forums where parents can talk about their hopes and concerns with an experienced facilitator.  In this context of anger, one mother remembers hanging out the clothes in her backyard and screaming at God and crying out "Why have you done this to me?   Why does my child have to struggle so much because of that drunken driver?"

     

    When our hearts go out in compassion towards those who suffer, we cannot help feeling angry with those who make them suffer.  The deeper our compassion for disadvantaged people, the stronger our anger at those who cause or perpetuate the disadvantage.  The two emotions go together as two sides of the same coin.  In fact, we cannot experience the one without the other.

     

    While we are grappling with the structures and systems that create oppression and while we are learning to share God’s anger about them, our actions will be somewhat different from the actions that simply flowed out of our compassion.  We will want to change the system.  We will want to engage in certain activities that are calculated to bring about social and political change.  “Charity” is a reaction to symptoms rather than causes.  It is often described as a ‘band-aid’ as opposed to preventive medicine.   What is the point of trying to relieve suffering while the structures that perpetuate the suffering are left untouched?  Preventative action is political action.  And so we find ourselves participating in social actions, supporting campaigns against governments and institutions.  This has its own tensions and constraints. Anger on its own may lead to burn-out.  So if you're angry more often than not … if you're shouting at the kids and feeling the tension too keenly … if you're not happy in the job take some steps to remedy it.  There are professional standards for Church workers that protect the people we work with and one standard is self care.

     

     However, when our anger is supported by the knowledge of the history and spirit of the congregations whom you work for, the struggle for justice will persevere for the ‘long haul’.    Your story … is part of … a much bigger story.  

     

    Well, speaking of traditions of religious congregations, Mater Dei Special School will be having its 50th birthday in 2007.

     

    It was converted from an Orphanage to a Special School in 1957.  I was interviewing one of the sisters who was principal  here in the 60's and she is now 90 years old.  She remembers a large and heated meeting taking place in the Leichhardt Town Hall when many parents of children with disabilities and professionals gathered for a public meeting to demand better rights and services.  In 1968 the Australian Government passed the Handicapped Person's Assistance Act.  A watershed in Australian legislation.  So anger can lead to change.

     

    When I was first studying, I did a prac in an enormous institution and was looking for fresh blankets because one of the women had urinated on her's.  One of the staff told me not to bother because "when you've been working here as long as I have you get used to it." That made me angry.  There and then I vowed that I would never let myself "get used to indignity". 

    Buzz Time

    You all must have 100's of stories of your own.  With the person beside you, share an experience in Special Education that has made you feel angry.  Tell each other what you do in order to cope.

    STAGE III -  ROMANTICISM

    The third stage begins with yet another discovery.  We tend to assume that we must solve the problems of the people we serve, either by “charity” or by changing the structures that oppress them.  We think that we, the educated and conscientised staff in the school, must come to the rescue of people because they themselves are so pitiably helpless and powerless.  There may even be some idea of getting them to co-operate with us.  There may even be some idea of teaching them to help themselves (the classical theory of development).  But is it always “we” who are going to teach ‘them’ to help themselves?

     

    We romanticise them by claiming them to be especially blessed, as not being culpable or capable.

     

    I remember a story of a teacher of an Autistic 7 yr old girl who was at her wits' end and decided to mirror everything the child did eg when the child clapped the teacher clapped, when the child played the maracas, the teacher played the maracas, when the child ran her hands along the wall, the teacher did the same.   Finally the child just stopped and stared at the teacher … waiting …waiting … staring … then the child lifted up her skirt, took off her nickers and threw them in the air!

     

    How many times have you met your match with one of your students?  And who wins?  We start to discover that those who are disadvantaged are confronting, do have faults, do make mistakes, do fail us and let us down and fail themselves and sometimes spoil their own cause.  They are human beings like us and we are like them.  They are sometimes selfish, sometimes lacking in commitment and dedication and sometimes waste money and opportunities.

     

    When we dispel the myth that the people we serve are greatly different to us, we are able to move onto the next stage of the journey of personal growth.  We share the same vulnerability with them only in different ways.  We wear masks that camouflage our weaknesses.

    Buzz Time

    Share with the person beside you an experience when you’ve encountered people romanticising or idealising your students.  How do you manage that experience?

    STAGE IV:  FROM ROMANTICISM TO REAL SOLIDARITY

     

    Albert Nolan’s fourth and last stage of development begins with the crisis of disillusionment and disappointment.  As I've said, we discover that many people who are disadvantaged do have faults, do make mistakes, do fail and let us down.  When it comes to matters of the heart, none of us are all that different. 

     

    Another story happened last Lent: One of the programs I offer to this Macarthur Deanery is a leisure program on Saturday afternoons.  Young adults with disabilities and trained volunteers come together for prayer, community building and some recreational activity.   They call themselves the GOOD NEWS PEOPLE. The young people wanted to do something for the Campbelltown parish and so Wendy Rheinberger and I decided to photograph them acting the Stations of the Cross and then making a powerpoint presentation that we could show during the reading of the Passion of Good Friday.  We only had 7 sessions of 1 hour to do this and so we started with great enthusiasm.  One young man desperately wanted to be Jesus.  He had a very bad speech impediment and a very sad family life so interestingly all the others agreed he should be Jesus.  They wore black skivvies and black pants and Jesus wore a purple cloak and a crown of thorns and Pontius Pilate wore a gold laurel wreath and a red cloak and they were as keen as mustard.  By week 6 we had accumulated 30 excellent photos on the digital camera and just needed about 10 more.  On the last day of filming, Jesus turned up wit his head shaven.  I said:  “JESUS, WHERE IS YOUR HAIR?”  The others told me he was in a special swimming team and he had shaved his head to be like Michael Klim.  So there was a frantic re-filming of all the shots with Jesus and I had galvanised all this help, a second camera, and through some miracle, we made it.  Wendy was unflappable and I was … manic.  St John’s was gifted with this beautiful powerpoint presentation which was shown during the reading of the Passion on Good Friday. 

     

    Realising we are all the same, can be the opportunity for a deeper and more realistic solidarity with them, a conversion from romanticism to realism.

     

    Nevertheless, we must remember that oppression remains a reality.  The sins against the people we reach out to are far greater than their own failures.  They are the ones who are sinned against and who are suffering.

     

    We need to enter into solidarity with them, and ‘solidarity with them’ means taking up their cause, not ours.  Together we need to take sides against oppression and unjust structures as well as looking at personal failures.

     

    Real solidarity begins when it is no longer a matter of ‘we’ or ‘they’.  Real solidarity begins when we recognise together the advantages and disadvantage of our different social backgrounds and present realities and the quite different roles that we have to play.  Then we can commit ourselves together to the struggle against oppression.

     

    One of the projects in which I'm involved is a Working Party to write a document for the Australian Bishops to send to every single parish in Australia.  The theme is the participation of people with a disability in parish life.  We carried out a consultation and received 400 quite long responses.  We were quite overwhelmed with the number as it initially was meant as a small random spread of people throughout all the dioceses.   But word went forth and this groundswell of people heard about it and wrote in to us. (This is the story of my life … projects seem to grow bigger and better). They told wonderful stories and this one is told by the parish priest:

     

    It was a Melbourne Parish and during the most solemn part of the Easter Vigil, a very upset lady with a mental illness came into the back of the Church and walked slowly up the aisle with her dog.  Arriving at the altar she faced the people and with tears of despair running down her face, began singing, "God is dwelling in my heart …" I was the parish priest saying Mass and all I could think of doing was to leave the altar and go and stand beside her. Then I began to sing the hymn with her.  Then some of the parishioners started to sing with us and then before long everyone was softly singing together.  To me this was the most significant thing I've witnessed at Mass.

     

    This might not seem like a big deal for non-Catholics here present but let me assure you, it definitely is in most Catholic parishes.

     

    Those of us who are not as oppressed and dispossessed of worth as those we serve must work toward this kind of solidarity.  To do otherwise is to set ‘us’ up against ‘them’.  We need to constantly search for a way of being part of the solidarity that the oppressed and dispossessed have with one another.

     

    As Christians we experience this solidarity with one another as a solidarity in Christ.  It is a solidarity with the cause of Christ which is, in fact, the cause of the oppressed and dispossessed.  In the end we will find one another in God - whatever our particular approach to God might be.  The structural evil or social sin, is our common enemy because it is first of all the enemy of God.  It is precisely by recognising the cause of the oppressed and dispossessed as God’s cause that we can come through the crisis of disillusionment and disappointment.

     

    25 years ago in 1979, I was embarking on the first stage of a deinstitutionalisation plan here at Mater Dei.  We planned to gradually move the boarders out of the dormitories with 21 beds in 3 enormous rooms to small houses in the areas of South Camden, Elderslie, Narellan and Leumeah.  It was an incredibly exciting adventure and we opened one house per year.  The logistics were amazing but one in particular involved catching a regular school bus with children from other schools.  Some of the regular kids started calling them names like 'spastics' and 'psychos'.  Our kids came running into my office telling me all this and I started feeling really sorry for them (back in the first stage of 'Compassion'). What have I started!  Then I realised nothing will change for them if they can't sustain this and make it become a regular event.  So I said: "I know this is hard but you have to try and stand up for yourselves.  I am very proud of how you have moved out from the dormitories to the residence in Camden South.   If you can see this through you'll be making it easier for the other Mater Dei children.  Don't just get upset because they'll do it all the more."

     

    We always made sure there were Mater Dei staff at Camden  where this school bus met the Mater Dei bus.  The next day, one staff member noticed when our kids got off the regular bus, the other kids called out to them "Good riddens spazzos.  Good Riddens psychos. And one of ours shouted back: " Good riddens normos!"

     

    WE WERE ALL IN SOLIDARITY THAT DAY

    Buzz Time

    Tell a story about a time you sensed you were working in solidarity with your students and their families.  How did you nurture your spirit to keep going for the long haul?

    CONCLUSION

    As special school staff we begin our work with compassion, and our initial response is one of ‘charity’.  Then there comes to us all a discovery of oppressive structures and the new and uncomfortable response of ‘anger’ emerges in us.  It is only then that we begin to recognise the real strengths of people who are able to cease ‘helping’ people and we begin to stand in solidarity with them.

     

    This is a very high ideal and it would be an illusion to imagine that we can reach it without a long personal struggle that will take us through several stages - through crises, dark nights, shocks and challenges.  What matters is that we recognise that we are part of a changing process.  We must always remain open to further developments.

     

    Moreover, we are not the only ones going through this process.  Some will be ahead of us and we may grapple to understand them.  Others will be only beginning on the road to maturity in this matter.  We need to appreciate their process, their need to grow.  We all need encouragements, support and mutual understanding.  Our commitment to each other in special schools, must be to enable each other to grow.

     

    We all need to find out for ourselves what nurtures our spirit.  We're all different.  Is it taking time for quiet reflection to listen to what's going on inside of you?  Is it physical exercise like a run or swim or a brisk walk to get all those endorphin's pumping?  Is it talking to someone you trust?  I'm not a counsellor but I do believe that we have to hear ourselves saying things out aloud about how we feel for healing to take place.  Put it out there.  Is it educating ourselves further by reading or a course of studies?  Is it taking some time with each other in forming our professional relationships?

     

    FINALLY, some very wise words from Clarissa Pinkola Estes.  The "Women Who Run with Wolves" lady.

     

    “Do not lose heart.  We were made for these times.  I have heard from so many recently who are deeply and properly bewildered.  They are concerned about the state of affairs in our world right now.  Ours is a time of almost daily astonishment and often-righteous rage over the latest degradations of what matters most to civilised, visionary people.

     

    You are right in your assessments.  The lustre that some have aspired to, while endorsing acts so heinous against children, elders, everyday people, the poor, the unguarded, the helpless, is breathtaking.  I urge you, ask you, gentle you, to please not spend your SPIRIT dry by bewailing these difficult times. Especially do not lose hope.

     

    Most particularly because, the fact is we were made for these times.  Yes. For years, we have been learning, practicing, been in training for and just waiting to meet on this exact plain of engagement.  We have a history of being gutted, and yet remember this especially, we have also, of necessity, perfected the knack of resurrection.

     

    Ours is not the task of fixing the entire world all at once, but of stretching out to mend that part of the world that is within our reach.  Any small, calm thing that one soul can do to help another soul, to assist some portion of this poor suffering world, will help immensely.  It is not given to us to know which acts, or by whom, will cause the critical mass to tip toward an enduring good.  What is needed for dramatic change is an accumulation of small acts, one by one, adding more and more to peace.

     

    One of the most calming and powerful actions you can do to intervene in a stormy world is to stand up and show your spirit. The light of the spirit throws sparks, can send up flares and others catch fire.  To display the lantern of spirit in shadowy times like these and to show mercy to others are acts of immense bravery and of greatest necessity.

     

    Struggling souls catch light from other souls who are fully lit and willing to show it.  If you would help to calm the tumult, this is one of the strongest things you can do. 

     

    For we were made for these times.”

     

    Thank you for your attention and good luck!